In the opening chapter of the book, Dale Carnegie wrote “Mastering the weakness of human nature and mastering his own destiny.” To be honest, back to a year ago, I would not be bored to read such a book. I believe this. However, people are always growing and will make subtle changes in their growth. When we were young, we talked a lot, and others called it innocent and cute. When we grow up, we call this the truth and the straight. Of course, “real” and “straight” listen as if others are boasting about you, but others indirectly yell at you, you may not be able to hear it. People really need to be frank, but they can’t say too much. Everyone likes to hear others praise themselves. Therefore, to better deal with interpersonal relationships, we must first understand the psychological characteristics of people, that is, human nature!
I believe that people who have caught fish know that when you want to catch a big fish, you must put the right bait. If you want to convince others, the best advice is to inspire a certain urgent need in business, in the family, in the school, in the society, in the minds of others. If you can succeed in this, Then the whole world belongs to you, and you will never touch nails. In the morning, you will end the road. This means that you need to take into account the different angles between you and the other person. There is only one way to influence others in the world. That is to raise their needs and let them know how to get them. They can put themselves in the shoes of others and understand what others think. People who want it, never have to worry about the future.

There is a small story: a salesman who breaks through the iron shoes every day, tired and frustrated, but what he gets is not as good as those who do not have to run a few times a day, there will be customers who come to the door and have high salary. why? Because he has not yet mastered the needs of his clients, he thinks that he only needs what he needs, but he has not thought about the needs of customers. They don’t know what you want to buy, what they don’t want to buy, and if they want, they can go out and buy it. Customers always like to take the initiative to purchase, rather than passive purchase. Paying attention to other people’s opinions and causing others’ desires can’t be understood as manipulating others, making him do something good for you, and his harmful things, it should be said that both sides can get each other’s interests and achieve a win-win situation. .

In education, when their children do not agree with the parents, or the parents impose on the children, they will resist, but these parents will only scold, they will not think about the child’s psychology from the child’s point of view. Although they also want to make their children excellent, and then reported them a lot of remedial classes, but the parents did not let the children interested in the remedial classes, so the expected result is the opposite. We can’t think of children as they don’t understand education. In fact, they understand, but they can’t express it because everyone wants to express themselves. Self-expression is the most important requirement of human nature.

At school, every class has a good student who is eccentric, and then it will attract a lot of people to be dissatisfied. In fact, I personally think that they can become good students who are preferred by teachers, not only because of their outstanding performance, but also because they have better personality than others. If you look carefully, you can also find that students who are relatively better can handle their interpersonal relationships very well, and will not easily quarrel. Therefore, there is a reason why teachers prefer students.

Humanity is a particularly wonderful and indescribable thing. It exists in the universe in a subtle form that is unpredictable. It sometimes becomes kind and sometimes horrible, so if we can see through it Its existence, I believe that in the interpersonal, career, or family, can bring unexpected good luck!

Рубрики: Interesting

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